With Mother's Day right around the corner you are bound to see tons of articles, advertisements, and social media posts about spoiling mom on Mother's Day. Some will tell you to make her breakfast in bed while others will put the emphasis on leaving mom alone today. A few people will truly grasp what Mother's Day is really about and the things that should be brought up on Mother's Day.
I never fully understood Mother's Day until I became a mother myself. Cliche as it might be, it's the truth. There are a lot of things that humans can't fully wrap their brains around until they experience those things themselves. I've had the privilege of working along side some amazing mothers, serving some, and just getting to know others. One thing I've learned is the majority of us wonder from time to time if we are doing enough. We might know we are a good mom but do we really feel it? Many of us struggle with the fact that we do so much but it might not ever been seen. So this post is for you mama, yes you reading. This is a longer post, so be prepared.. it's a good one!
~~To the woman who just peed on a store bought home pregnancy test and is laughing in shock as tears run down her face. It's finally happened, after months (maybe years) of praying, longing, and trying you've finally conceived. I see you, Happy Mother's Day.
~~To the woman who just peed on a store bought home pregnancy test and this pregnancy wasn't planned. The amount of shock and wave of emotions that just came over you and are consuming you-- I see you. Happy Mother's Day.
~~To the woman who is spending more time hugging a toilet than enjoying her pregnancy. I know you're trying to do your best for your baby. You're trying to take your prenatal vitamins, you're trying to eat a healthy, balanced diet, but nothing is working. Some people might even jokingly say that you're faking it or causing yourself to throw up for attention. I see you. I see the fear & anxiety that runs rampant in your brain as you watch the pounds fall off. I see the sigh of relief that you breathe when you see the heartbeat on the screen. You're doing your best, it's all going to be worth it, I promise. Happy Mother's Day.
~~To the woman who has done everything right and your pregnancy ended as a result of a miscarriage. I see you. I feel your pain, I've been there before. Chances are, many women you know have felt this unimaginable pain. The self blame, self doubt, and more. I see you. Just because this baby isn't born and placed into your arms he/she still existed. You loved them and they loved you. All they knew was you and your love. Happy Mother's Day, today might feel terrible for you and you might choke back the tears and smile while wishing other's a Happy Mother's Day. I see you.
~~To the mother who take tons of shots and medications in order to conceive. I see you. I see the anxiety that you feel even when everyone tells you to relax. Thank you for working so hard to bring this baby into the world. Happy Mother's Day-- you did it!
~~To the mother raising a baby that was not physically born to her, thank you. Thank you for loving something that doesn't contain your DNA. I know you have fears and your mind is always full of wonder at what life will be like in the future with this adorable baby. Happy Mother's Day!
~~ To the woman who has shockingly gone into preterm labor. Maybe you got put on bed rest or maybe you're going to be a NICU mama. I see you. Your strength is immeasurable. Take care of yourself, even though the only one you're thinking about right now is your baby. Happy Mother's Day.
~~To the woman who had to give up her birth plan and labor took an unexpected turn. I see you. Many will say all that matters is that the baby is healthy, you might even say it. It's okay to feel like this birth might have been robbed from you. This is an experience you will carry with you your entire life, a day you'll never forget. It's okay to have the feelings you have. It's okay to talk about it. Happy Mother's Day. What you might see as failure and defeat, I see as a woman who strongly brought her child into the world- even if that meant needing help from someone else.
~~To the woman who was told something isn't right with her baby. Whether you're told this while they are inutero or once they've been born. This isn't your fault. You're undying love and strength to press on with a good, positive attitude is something all mother's strive for. Happy Mother's Day.
~~To the working mama, to the mama who is an OB/GYN making sure every other mom gets her Mother's Day this year and you might even be missing time with your own kids. I see you. Thank you for putting your life aside and putting others before you. I hope you get your Mother's Day, even if it's a day late. I hope you get your rest and your extra sleep, since you've been on call for days.
~~To the working mama, missing her child's school functions because she is providing for her family. I see you. I see how hard you are working. I also see the amount of judgement that people give you. I see the posts that you scroll past on social media that sting. I see how you smile with enthusiasm as your child tells you all about the event you weren't able to make it. I see the tears you don't allow to come out as you look at pictures and memories you missed out on. I see you. Don't let anyone ever tell you that you are doing the wrong thing. First and foremost your children need to be taken care of. You are putting aside your desires and feelings for your children and family. Happy Mother's Day, you deserve this day to spend with your children.
~~To the stay at home mama. I see the amount of time and energy you put into the daily life of your kids. I see the house that you struggle to keep clean. I see the frustration as you go from one thing to the next feeling like it is a never ending battle. Yes, the kids are hungry again, even though they just ate less than an hour ago. I see how you desire time to yourself. I see how you brush your husband off and tell him "not tonight" because you're tired of being touched and are just exhausted. I see you. I see how much energy you're putting into your kids, home, and family. Don't feel bad when you decide you need time for you. It's okay to be selfish sometimes, 99% of the time you are selfless. Don't feel bad to take time for yourself, even if it's an inconvenience to some. The world, needs you to be okay. Your babies need you to be okay. Happy Mother's Day.
~~To the mom who is struggling with Postpartum Depression & Anxiety. Many of your friends have fallen away, not because they don't care and love you, they just don't understand what you're going through. It doesn't make it right that they left, I personally am guilty of pulling away too. You see that you're having an issue. You know something is off, thank you for getting the help YOU need. I see you caring for your baby, getting up when you feel like the depression makes it so you can't get out of bed. I see you struggling to fight an anxiety attack before you go into the store. I see how much stress this has put on motherhood and your relationships. I see you. Happy Mother's Day. You are fighting the good fight. Don't listen to anyone (even if it's yourself) that says you're a terrible mother, you're doing your best.
~~To the mom who had to give up breastfeeding for whatever reason when you didn't want to. I see the tears, I see the amount of anguish you're feeling inside. No matter what anyone says, no matter what articles you see on social media, no matter what--- know this-- you did your best. You gave your baby (and yourself) something amazing. You strengthened your bond, you gave him mother's milk, you literally gave of yourself in every sense of the phrase. Happy Mother's Day. Your strength is amazing.
~~To the mom who has to share custody of her kids and maybe this year Mother's Day fell on your ex's weekend. I see the anger when you ex refuses to compromise and trade days. Take this time for you. You are still an amazing mother. I see your hurt, anger, and unexplained emotions running through you. Happy Mother's Day. You are your child's mother and they love you. No one can take away your child's love... no one.
In case you haven't heard it in a while, Thank you. Thank you for your love, your selflessness, and your patience. Thank you for allowing your child to have the last bite of your food-- even though they had the same thing & refused to eat it. Thank you for not screaming, okay maybe you did but that's okay too-- when your kids refused to eat what you made for the 150,000th time. Thank you for literally dying to yourself when you became a mother. Thank you for sticking it out even when all you wanted to do was run the other way. Thank you for fighting for your kids. Thank you for advocating for them. Thank you for carrying your child in your womb for months-- even when it was difficult and it felt like the sickness would never end. Thank you for asking for help when you needed it. Thank you for being you. Even if no one says it, you are appreciated.
Happy Mother's Day to every mother out there. No matte what kind of mom you are. No matter your parenting choices, no matter how your child came into this world, no matter if you stay at home or work outside the home, no matter if you're single or in a relationship, no matter what-- Happy Mother's Day.
You may not see it. Your child might seem to favor the other parent or a grandparent more than you--- but know this. You are the foundation that your child is built on. You, yes you! You are the home base. You are the sanctuary. You are the one they want and need when they need comfort.
God gave YOU this baby. Don't even-- don't you dare ever tell yourself that you are not enough. You are enough! You are more than enough. Don't let social media or for the love of God don't let pinterest dictate or tell you that you aren't enough. There is no need to ever compare yourself to other moms out there. Your kid(s) love you. Sure your kids might be toddlers and they might be an asshole sometimes-- that's okay, they still love you. Sure your kids might be teenagers and might tell you how much they hate you-- they will regret that someday, and whether or not they tell you, they are sorry for what they said.
I hope you get to enjoy Mother's Day this year. I hope your husband and children make a big deal. I hope you get more than you asked for (in a positive way) this year. I hope that you feel the love. I hope you get more than a physical gift. I hope you truly know how much your presence is valued in your child's life. I hope you know without a shadow of a doubt that you deserve motherhood and motherhood deserves you. You are doing God's work. Thank you.
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Who am I?
My name is Jessica Kellaway! I am the earth loving, natural parenting, Jesus loving weirdo your mama might have warned you about!