I have started writing this post and deleted it about 4 times. FOUR times!
........so here it goes...
I am seeing an epidemic, yes an epidemic, of people who are working out or eating "healthy" in order to be skinny. They aren't doing this to lose weight but to be skinny. People are setting these goals to LOOK like certain models, random people they follow on Instagram, or people they see at the gym. Your GOAL should NEVER be to LOOK like someone else.
There is nothing wrong about having goals and setting goals. If you want to have toned abs-- then work for it. Change your diet & workout routine to your goals-- just don't give up HEALTHY foods because you want to look a certain way. It is all about balance.
........You will not look like someone else & I am going to tell you why.....
We are all different. We all have different DNA (unless you have an identical twin). We all have different thought patterns. We have different blood types. We have different metabolic types. We are either sympathetic dominant or parasympathetic dominant or somewhere in the middle. We all are DIFFERENT!
I'm not saying it is wrong to have inspiration boards-- those are great.. but they are meant to INSPIRE you-- not for you to copy... You are BEAUTIFUL & STRONG.
Now let me explain a little further...
I'm not saying that it is wrong to workout and eat so that you can say tone or tighten certain areas of your body like your abs or your legs. BUT the overall reason people should be eating healthy & working out is for their HEALTH. You should be more concerned about your health than having tightened and toned muscles.
I have seen so many meal plans that have low fat/no fat. High carb or low carb. Super high protein. Low protein. You mention it, I have seen it and studied it! Honestly... people need to realize that they need to NOURISH their body FIRST! Then begin working towards whatever goal that they have.
STOP THE JUDGEMENT
STOP THE SHAMING! Stop looking at yourself and judging & shaming yourself.What good is judging yourself doing you? What good is being hard on yourself doing for you? What good is getting down on yourself doing? Did you know there is power in positive thinking??? Instead of seeing how far you have to go-- see each and every bit of progress you make and be happy about you can SEE a physical change yet-- remember that you are doing great things in your body-- Working out and getting active is great for your cardiovascular system, lymphatic system, and even your digestive system. A very wise woman named Bessheen Baker says "Healthy is not a flower you pick but a path you must follow."
Being Healthy is a never ending process. You won't ruin your health over eating that piece of cake, but you aren't going to greatly increase your health if you eat a salad.
EVERYTHING is about BALANCE
I have also seen many clients who are working out and eating healthy -- but just aren't losing the weight. There are so many reasons for this! It could be hormonal, it could be toxins, it could be certain organs not doing their job to their fullest potential, or are you ready for this??? It could be EMOTIONAL.
I have SEEN SO MANY PEOPLE who have EMOTIONAL baggage that is manifested in their weight and their health! People will sit in judgement of themselves and their body. They are either too big, too small, too tall, too short, have love handles, don't have toned abs, thighs touch, thighs don't touch... you name it-- people judge themselves about it!
How about we try something? Let's try an exercise---
Take a post-it note or some type of paper... and write the following & say it daily-- and damnit you better mean it & believe it! You can write your own version-- but here is an example-- for a mom trying to get her pre-pregnancy body back:
"Thank you body! Thank you for the SACRIFICE that you made for 9-10 months. THANK YOU for being strong. I APPRECIATE you! I LOVE YOU! You are BEAUTIFUL. YOU are ENOUGH."
Let me explain one more thing.....
---Let me repeat---
***There is NOTHING wrong with setting goals & working towards them. But STOP being so HARD on yourself! LOVE yourself. LOVE your body! It is doing amazing things! APPRECIATE your body. Stop starving it your body & mind and start NOURISHING it. Eat nourishing and nutrient dense foods. Food is your friend- not your enemy!***
Who am I?
My name is Jessica Kellaway! I am the earth loving, natural parenting, Jesus loving weirdo your mama might have warned you about!